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PARENTAL CONSULTING
“Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”
― James Baldwin
“But kids don't stay with you if you do it right. It's the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won't be needed in the long run.”
― Barbara Kingsolver
Goal Clarity/Behavior Modification/Building Trust/Fairness/
Effective Communication/Consistency/Modeling
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs there is, especially since unlike a job, there is little training that adapts to your particular needs. The majority of parenting techniques we learn are from our parents with one of two mentalities...."I want to be just like my parent in this way" or "I will never be that type of parent in that way." The other way is reading on the internet some new fade or way of doing things that does not always carry over to our situation. This can be frustrating because one size does not fit all. This is where parental consulting can help.
Children from a very young age tend to watch and model the behaviors they regularly see or do not see. Many times when we have the intention of teaching one thing, they are picking up another thing so it can be difficult to understand what is happening and why your child may be acting or not acting in a desired way. Parental consulting is a wonderful tool that can be used as an intervention to begin to understand what is happening and how to resolve it. Similar to shows like "Super Nanny," the help of a third party perspective to observe, discuss, and plan new ways of thinking, talking, and behaving for all parents and children involved, the issues can be resolved and relationships mended. Many times it is essential for the children to be involved so that they understand more clearly what is happening.
In addition, parental consulting can be a proactive measure, where the parents and children begin to discuss and form behaviors and language that is understood and agreed upon before issues begin to arise. When a child is on the way or very young, many parents do not develop a consistent and agreed upon way of parenting so that they may act as a united front that allows little confusion for the child. This is where proactive parental consulting can be very beneficial for couples to decide how they want to raise their children together, as most of us are not raised the same way.
Handling childhood behaviors
Developing a united parenting plan
Understanding the impact of how we were raised
Designing a consistency plan between separated parents
Identifying problem behaviors
Creating a behavioral reinforcement & consequence system
Recreating perceptions of "good" parent vs "bad" parent
Understanding the underlying causes of behavior
Learning to model the most productive behaviors
And much more
If you are experiencing some ups and downs as a parent or parents, then parental consulting may be just the thing for you. All parents have good moments and bad moments, so if you sometimes recognize that "it takes a village to raise a child" then you are right. No parent is perfect, so being able to recognize and ask for help shows that you want nothing but the best for your kids. If you want to develop a plan to get you and your spouse on the same parenting page and get your children on the road to success through consistency and communication, please contact us so that we can help support you every step of the way.
